Where Would I Be Without NEADS?????

So, I went up to Princeton, MA, yesterday to the NEADS campus. Even when I had Alli, I would make several trips up a year to bring some baked goods. I realized that I hadn't delivered any since the Spring. As it turns out, Amy Reay was training with her new partner "Delancy". I felt privileged to meet Delancy before the "general population" and was able to see right away that they make a great team. I really don't know how the trainers make the perfect match between client and dog time, after time!

I knew I'd have a wonderful trip, and I wasn't disappointed in the least. As soon as I walked in I felt like it was "Old Home Week". Warm hugs, kind words and just a general feeling of comfort and contentment. Receiving that welcome each time, along with the knowledge that yet another perfect match will be made with me and my next partner makes the wait so much more bearable. Well, that, and.......

THE PUPPY HOUSE!!!!! For all the time that I've been a NEADS client, I have never gone into the puppy house! My good friend Cindy made the trip with me, and we agreed that this was the perfect end to our day.......and it made the 2 hour drive home seem like half that! There were 4 puppies there when we arrived. They were sound asleep on the rug in different areas of the room. I can only remember the names of 2 of them, Chief and Sherlock. Chief was the largest. He's a beautiful yellow Lab. Sherlock was an adorable black Lab. I fell for Sherlock immediately. Since I was a child, I have absolutely loved Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's "Sherlock Holmes". I especially like Basil Rathbone as Holmes, and Nigel Bruce as Watson. I personally don't think anyone has done better than these two, either before or after......(though I like Robert Downey, Jr's take on the roll) I was shown a photo of Alli as a puppy, and it made my heart skip a few beats when I saw that Cyndi(one of the puppy trainers, as well as one who chooses the pups from the litters) was teary eyed as we spoke of Alli. I often tell people that it must help, when you lose someone close, to know that they meant so much to so many people and brought happiness to their lives. Alli may not be "gone", but she has had to retire as she is losing her sight. No matter who I've spoken to, they alway smile when reminiscing about Alli's past "antics" and "escapades"! I am so glad that she brought happiness to so many beside myself and that they, too, have fond memories of her. She continues, in her new life, to enjoy life just as she always has and has not lost a bit of her amazing personality.......

I thought that the holiday season might be rough without Alli, and to be fair I've had a few tears. The good news is that Elizabeth and Andy sent me a picture of Alli with her teddy bear. Seeing that picture just gave me a sense of calm and that everything will be okay. I will try to post that pic along with one I took of Alli when we went to "practice" in my church's fellowship hall. Twice she made the bear something of a bargaining tool! Once at home when we were headed out, and again that day at church. Alli picked up the bear and wouldn't put it down when I told her to "drop-it". At home I finally let her keep it until we got into the car, and I had to let her carry it around for the first half of our practice time at church. She really didn't seem too attached to it most of the time, just putting it on her bed.....or mine.....and sleeping with her chin on it from time to time. But, when I took the pictures, both times she looked like a stubborn child not wanting to give in.....her pouty look could occasionally win me over...... In any case, when I came across the bear and realized it hadn't gone with the rest of her "things" I couldn't just dispose of it. I hemmed and hawed and finally decided to send it on to her, along with the picture from church......and I am so glad I did. It puts the cherry on the top....that is I know she is truly happy. I really knew it all along, but the picture is truly worth a thousand words........




Yup, that's my girl!!!! She is so lucky to have had Elizabeth as her Weekend Puppy Raiser. Because of that she had the best people fall in love with her.....and in the end, give her a new forever home.

I guess it's true that when one door closes, another one opens. I had to give Alli up in order for her to begin the next chapter in her life, and Amy Reay received Delancy who will help Amy begin her next chapter.......kind of funny how that works.......??

Miracles do happen,
Peace,
Wendy

"Moving On, and on, and on........

Here is Alli....just where she is meant to be......with Elizabeth and Andy. I used to say that service dogs are Labs - 25% of the time, and Service Dogs - 75%......and Alli always had that reversed!!!! That was okay with me, as that's pretty much my % of seriousness as well. Don't get me wrong, she is an AMAZING service dog,......just a better Lab!! Had she not begun to lose her vision, she would have continued on as a much loved and much appreciated service dog and companion. But....all things considered, she is doing what she was meant to do.....be a devoted Lab for a family who loves her just as much as I do...... I always say things happen for a reason, and there is a reason for her blindness, and her return to Elizabeth and Andy.......

Having said that, aside from the occasional update on Alli's progress in life, I am now going to change the name of the blog one more time to "Looking Forward". I don't want to dwell on what was or could have been. I also need to be able to look to the future to a time when another service dog will be matched with me and together we will begin a new chapter in our lives.

On that subject, I need to remark on the NEADS Graduation this past Sunday, the 13th. Whether a client or not, I cannot think of anything I would rather do on a Sunday afternoon than watch more than 20 individuals with their service dogs get recognized for becoming partners, or better yet, a team. Their lives are enhanced almost immediately upon meeting each other. I say this, because the dogs lives, too, are enhanced for arriving at their new forever home where their unconditional love is appreciated and multiplied unto them. Watching them, I know if it hasn't happened already, the team will soon become "one". Anticipating each other's needs and being there for one another at all times......good and bad...... I also love watching the pups-in-training as they meander through the throngs of human and canine bodies, ever vigilant for what their Weedend Puppy Raiser (WPR)asks of them. The proud faces of the WPR are priceless. They welcome the opportunity to tell the pup's name and "just how amazing he/she is" at everything they do! This is just one of the elements that makes the WPR aspect of the dogs' training successful. I sooooo love looking at all the dogs with the blue vests(training colors) and wondering......could that pup someday grow up to "partner" with me?

I have been asked so many times if I have heard anything about my new dog......to this I answer, "No, and I don't expect to for at least 12 to 18 months." The answer is often "Really?" and I am quick to reply, "NEADS did such a great job matching me with Alli that I am more than ready to be patient and let them do what they do best.....put great teams together......being careful to match personalities and the clients' needs." Enough said! Perfection is always worth waiting for!

Also at graduation, were several "Wounded Warriors". While they all received service dogs, a few have dogs who are also trained as "Trauma Alert" dogs. What a WONDERFUL program! These Trauma Alert dogs are matched with individuals with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, (PTSD). The dogs are trained to recognize when an "episode" is imminent and the client is trained to work with the dog to recognize, and hopefully ease the severity of the episode, by comforting one another through it. It's amazing what our canine companions can do for us, all the while offering their unconditional love. This in itself is priceless for the deaf, disabled, socially withdrawn or returning combat veteran with a disability whether physical or emotional.

Until next time,
Wendy

It's Not Always Easy to Look Forward.........

My daughter called me shortly after the snow began last Saturday, October 29, 2011. She said she was blaming it all on me! When I asked why, she said that I always wish for snow so it was my fault that we got it so early. I assured her that while I LOVE SNOW, there was no way in hell I would wish for it this early in the season!!!!!

I took some time and thought about it......... I tried to think ahead to the winter and the snow we will receive at an appropriate time. The last two winters, I had Alli as my partner in crime. I am minus that partner and am not looking forward to the snowy weather for maybe the first time in my life! Having spent the first 9 years of my life in up state New York, I have always loved the look, the quiet hush and the feel of the snow. But this year's different. This year just doesn't feel like it has. I think it's because the last several years before Alli I hadn't been going out and enjoying the winter in all it's beauty. But Alli got me out, rolling in the snow, laughing and taking pictures of that amazing girl running in the heavenly white stuff.

We were very lucky during this storm. Our lights blinked quite a few times, sometimes lasting 30 seconds to nearly a minute. Apparently the rest of the neighborhood down the road from us were without power until sometime Wednesday or Thursday. We live at the top/end of a series of hills rising up from Main Street in Ivoryton. Our power, however, comes up the dirt road on our property from the opposite direction. The lines are also underground. We usually don't lose power unless a "substation" is out. I am very much afraid of the dark. Always have been, and probably always will be. Alli gave me strength and courage to get through anything! I'm finding out that even though Alli is no longer with me that strength and courage continues.

I'm trying to move forward, though it's not that easy. I don't imagine anyone thought it would be. US Pain Foundation has asked me to be a "point person" for New England. This is exactly what I need. While it will be easier once I get my new dog, I will be able to start my "duties" right away. It will entail attending summits, conferences, workshops and meetings covering a wide range of topics and how they relate to chronic pain survivors. Insurance concerns are a major aspect as insurance companies become more aware of the pain community and it's strength through sheer numbers. Two weeks ago I testified before a committee in Massachusetts concerning their S 422. This is extremely similar to HB 1083 which we worked on this past spring and Gov. Malloy signed into law in August. They are bills that will prevent patients from failing on insurance approved medications for pain before approving the prescription the patient's doctor originally wrote. This causes a delay in appropriate pain management, and takes the medical decision out of the patient's doctors' hands. I also have a summit coming up this week and a workshop the following week. I enjoy being actively involved in areas that I am interested in. I look forward to this new challenge. I know when I get my new dog it will be easier for me to head out daily without the fear of falling and needing others to help me.

This last week has been difficult health wise. While I've been having headaches regularly since Alli left, this last week has been particularly tough. I've had 2 relatively severe migraines that left me weak, tired, nauseous, and not able to see much. I am hoping that my next dog will become as "in tune" with me as Alli was. I hope that he/she will come to know when I'm going to have a migraine. I realize that there's no guarantee that that will happen but I really hope it does. That has been one of the most amazing things for me. I had very few migraines since Alli was able to let me know so I could head it off before it struck.

If you don't already do it, I would strongly suggest that you go to the NEADS site, neads.org and check it out. And.....if you click on the blog, you can see the "Cute Puppy" pictures that are posted Monday through Friday. It's kind of neat to wonder if any of these pups might grow into my service dog.........just a thought! The site also has information on the Prison Pup Program, a calendar of events and an application for anyone who feels the need for a service or hearing dog.

While at BJ's last weekend, I met Angus. Angus is a 6 month old black lab who is in training for Guiding Eyes. I had a brief conversation with the "retired" couple who had him and we talked a little about the eyes of a lab and how they just cause you to melt........ Angus was adorable, but I did quite well....so my daughter told me! I only shed a few tears when as we were loading the car I saw Angus and his "folks" leaving. I have such wonderful memories of Alli and all she did for me....both physically and emotionally. But, I also have wonderful memories of Alli with her new family from meeting Elizabeth at a "meet and greet" during my training to the day Alli went to live with them. Though I was parting from her, her excitement at seeing Elizabeth and Andy is actually a happy memory for me. And the pictures and brief video I've seen of Alli since shows me that she continues to be the happiest most personable dog there is. And, I say this while I continue to chuckle at her antics!

I now feel I can move forward....with the occasional look back..........

Peace,
Wendy

The "In Between Place"........

Okay, so I've started this post 3 different times and just can't come up with the words that do justice for Alli. Who would ever think that a dog could leave such a void for words? Anyone who has ever had a service dog for a partner knows!!! A very special person put a post on "Facebook" about a service dog being "just a dog" to some people. I'd like to thank Alexis for posting it and copy it below. It helps me speak from my heart about Alli. She may be a "goof", but she was also a great and talented service dog!

I have found that while it has been a week, I am still "doing fine" as far as losing Alli. Let me rephrase that.......I didn't lose her, I offered her the opportunity to have a wonderful life despite the fact that within the year she will in all probably be completely blind. I won't belabor the point about how Alli deserved the best and was fortunate to get it. But, while I am doing fine, it is with sporadic periods of sadness intermingled with new experiences. It is those new experiences that actually bring on the weeping. It's kind of different to face each new day ready to meet it head on and suddenly realize that when you look down to discuss it with your "partner", she's not there. You have to either keep it to yourself, or speak out loud to no one!
It's also been difficult as I continue to struggle with my health. I am not someone who can stay down and I'm having to lay on my bed without talking or moving to avoid the chronic cough. I am still using the nebulizer a minimum of 4 times/day, was put back up on some prednesone and am taking my codeine 3 times every day. If I so much as mess with any of this protocol I spend a good deal of time coughing. I have a feeling I've fractured a couple of ribs, knowing that I did last year, and feeling almost the same but actually with more pain. The last 22 months I have had Alli to "whine" to. I almost never complain to any human company, and Alli was always a safe bet since she couldn't tell others how I feel. I find myself crying a bit more during my coughing "jags" as it's my only outlet and while I'm crying I tell Mark, "I can't do too much more of this!" I hate letting others know I'm hurting!!!!! Alli would also automatically stretch out and lay alongside me whenever I got down......of course I'd get a big "kiss" first!!! And then, there's the loneliness factor. I really feel alone with Al gone, I worry when I start to trip, when I get a headache out of the blue and I think....."Alli probably would have told me it was coming", I worry that it could be another migraine/mild stroke. I've already lost a small bit of change since I won't even try to bend to pick it up in public and I don't have my partner to "go for it"!

I had originally thought that it would be best if another dog wasn't found for me right away. Now, knowing that Alli is all squared away, I can think of myself and I'm feeling that the sooner the better. Not to replace Al by any means, but I now know what a service dog can do for me both physically as well as emotionally. I really think that I could accept another dog at any point now. It's kind of neat. While I find myself in the familiar position of waiting for "that call", I also feel that I'm in a very unique position. I know the NEADS family now, I totally understand the process, and I have the benefit of looking at the pups in training and sizing them up knowing what my needs are and the needs/requirements of my dog. Ever since I got Alli, I have continued to go to the NEADS website daily to check out anything new, and to follow the clients on the list. I now also go to the NEADS Blog daily to see the daily "Cute Puppy" pictures. It's neat to see them as small puppies and wonder if any of them could be the one to be my new dog in 12-13 months. I also enjoy looking at the pics on the blogs from the various fundraisers and NEADS events. I enjoy going to these events, and meeting the dogs in training that are brought by their "Weekend Puppy Raiser" (This is what Elizabeth was to Alli, a wonderful position but tough to give up the pup I would imagine) to socialize and experience new situations.

In any case, I now find myself in a period of transition. Below is the quote I mentioned above:

"From time to time, people tell me, “lighten up, it’s just a dog”, or, “that’s a lot of money for just a dog”. They don’t understand the distance traveled, the time spent, or the costs involved for “just a dog”. Some of my proudest moments have come about with “just a dog”. Many hours have passed and my only company was “just a dog”, but I did not once feel slighted. Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by “just a dog” and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch of “just a dog” gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day. If you, too, think it’s “just a dog”, then you will probably understand phases like “just a friend”, “just a sunrise”, or “just a promise”. “Just a dog” brings into my life the very essence of friendship, trust, and pure unbridled joy. “Just a dog” brings out the compassion and patience that makes me a better person. Because of “just a dog” I will rise early, take long walks and look longingly to the future. So for me and folks like me, it’s not “just a dog” but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future, the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment. “Just a dog” brings out what’s good in me and diverts my thoughts away from myself and the worries of the day. I hope that someday they can understand that it’s not “just a dog” but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being “just a human.” So the next time you hear the phrase “just a dog”, just smile, because they “just don’t understand”.~ Sue Downes"

So, while I am in transition, I find that I'm actually in the "In Between Place". For better or worse, that's where I am......I will make it a better place......

A place of Hope and Promise.......

Peace,

Wendy

A New Beginning......for Both of Us......

This is how I'd like to remember Alli.....goofy! Someone at the US Pain Foundation's "Triumph Over Pain-Run, Walk or Roll" asked me how Alli helps me up from falls. So I crouched down.....with some difficulty. Alli looked hard at me as she's not used to me going down so slowly.....it's usually a quick fall. I looked at her and asked if she were going to help or give me a kiss....guess which she chose!?!? Of course, then she helped. A two for one deal!!!!

All in all, I think Saturday probably went better than I had expected. I think I was aware of every moment as it passed nearing the "10:00 departure". It even started the night before. Alli is such a snuggler, but this time I really think she knew it had to be for keeps. In the morning, she was loving, goofy, and just plain Alli. I was up and dressed, as usual, before Debbie awoke. When she did, she asked Alli if she were going to get her up.....that's one of Alli's favorite things. To be asked to wake someone up is probably on her list of top 10 favorites. She ran over to Debbie, looked at me, and when I said "go ahead", she jumped on to the bed and nudged Deb. When Debbie started to laugh, Alli stretched out along side her and then onto her back.....as always for the tummy rub!!!! Alli knows how to always make it about her, but without you knowing it because you, too, are getting so much love out of the deal!! At our house on Prudence Island, Debbie's granddaughter loves to have me tell Alli to "nudge" the bedroom door open first and then tell her to get Liv and Deb up.

Alli was very well behaved on Saturday.....until.....she saw Elizabeth and Andy approaching. I saw them coming down from the upper parking lot before Alli and came out from behind the table I was sitting at. As soon as we came around the banners Alli saw them as well. Right away she began to whine, cry, and pull. I must say it made my heart sink for a moment but rebounded right away knowing that these people have always received this response from Alli. This is exactly what I wanted for Alli. How obvious that she feels so good, so loved when she is in their company.

I took time to explain what I was bringing to send with Alli. Probably too many toys, and I only brought the ones that she plays with regularly! She is sooooo like one of my pre-k kids. She just needs time to mature a bit......like a lifetime!!!!! I'm sure many will be replaced with new ones, as they should. She should be able to make new memories with new toys. There are several that were really special to Alli. One was "Rex", just a stuffy that she often liked to pull under her chin like a pillow of sorts. Another is this really silly round ball, bright green.....with feet! It's the dumbest looking think that we always called "squeaker". She loved running from one end of the house to the other just squeaking! Alli always looked to get it after we practiced our skills, whether in Fellowship Hall at church, or out in our calder-sac. I tried to keep it as an inside toy just so she would have it longer, but she absolutely loved running with it.

I took quite a few pictures and had others use my camera to get pictures of all of us. I can't believe the last pictures we took of Alli show her in a "t-shirt"!!!!!! I NEVER put clothes on pets! I can't stand it unless it's a hairless dog or cat that requires it for warmth or sun protection. I was getting a "Triumph Over Pain....." shirt for myself, and the woman actually insisted that she had one that would fit Alli. So, not knowing how to say "No", I put one on Alli backwards so that the "walk" logo would show above the edge of her vest. Then, after I removed the vest, the "Service Dog" tag and my medication vial from Alli's collar I forgot to take the shirt off. Unfortunately none of us thought of taking it off until Alli was leaving and I kind of called over to them to please take the t-shirt off. Oh, well, at least I'll continue to smirk when I look at those pictures and see Alli putting up with it all. She's such a trooper!!!!

When I kissed Alli good-bye, and hugged and kissed Elizabeth and Andy I knew I was about to lose it so I had to walk away. Debbie walked to their car with them. She said that as they walked, Alli kind of looked back at me, forward toward their car, and did this several times before getting into the car. She stood a moment before laying down and then, that was it.

I said in an e-mail to a close friend concerned for me, as well as on Facebook, that having to give Alli up on Saturday was both the hardest thing I've ever had to do and the most fulfilling. I know that making sure Alli went to the right family was paramount. I had to give up one of the most important beings in my life. One who has made my life so fulfilling once again when I thought it could never be that way. But, life goes on, and as hard as it is to think this way, there will be another "partner" for me. Not another Alli, but another service dog that will be just as loving, just as helpful and will make my life just as fulfilling. Alli taught me that everything is possible if you have the assistance and the belief that you can achieve anything. She also taught me that I needed to make sure that I return that love in kind. It seems to me that making sure that she is in a loving home, with a loving family who is ready willing and able to see her through her blindness is the best way I can return that love. And, one way or another, we'll both move on....

Below is a picture of the most amazing couple I've ever met,
and Alli is blessed to be part of their family.

Andy and Elizabeth Meritt Harkness
and Alli
9/24/2011

LAST PLAY-DATE!!!!!!!

On Tuesday, September 20, 2011 Alli and I got together with Ellen and Maggie, and Karin and Lucky. It was to be the last play-date for the pups. They had a wonderful time! Actually, I'm not sure who needed it more, Alli, or me. Yes, I do. I needed it. I needed to be able to touch base where it all began. I only wish Eddie could have been there too. It feels a little odd. When we get together next, Ellen mentioned when she gets back from surgery in WI November 20th, I will not have Alli. I'll be in a type of "limbo". It will also be difficult, because we met are dogs on November 9, 2009, and finished our training on the 20th. It will be 2 years to the day.

While at Ellen's.......it was a great afternoon......as always, we talked about just about everything there is to talk about. Our trials, tribulations, health.....etc. We talked about the past, the weekend coming up for Alli's departure, and the future. I started wondering....... When a dog is found for me, it could be 12-18 mos., I will go for my 2 weeks of training again. So, between wondering what the dog will be like, I also find myself wondering what my classmates will be like. The four of us really lucked out that first time. We just seemed to hit it off right off the bat. We have completely different personalities, different disabilities/illnesses, different backgrounds, but we just sort of "got" each other. Eddie and I even took turns playing the "straight man" to each other's humor. We all found it relatively easy to talk to each other on our "down" time. I now find myself in the familiar territory of uncertainty. While I usually hav no trouble getting along with people I've just met, I dread new situations just the same. That's something Alli has really helped me with. While NEADS provides "social" dogs for children with autism and other disabilities; Alli has been not only my service dog but my social dog as well. I have entered more social situations and participated in more conversations since receiving her. I never would have spoken to legislators without her by my side. So, now it's like starting over. It will be a new social situation when I go for my training, and it will begin without a dog beside me. What will the group be like. Will we function as a group or as individuals? I know it's still a very long way off, but this is what I do.

The time we spent together on Tuesday reminded me of how important it is to have support. And not just any support, but the support of those who have traveled the same road. While Karin did have Lucky returned to her after his illness, and thank God Maggie hasn't had to deal with anything which would take her away from Ellen, they know what these dogs mean to us. They understand what it's all about. I'm still not sure how I'll handle it. I know I want a picture of Alli walking away with Elizabeth and Andy. It will be the closure I need.

I don't think I'm quite done here, but I can't stop coughing and I keep feeling like I'm suffocating.
In any case, I'll end here,
Wish us luck on Saturday,
Peace,
Wendy & Alli

Alli's Church Family Says "Farewell" Through Worship

Here is Pastor Ken Peterkin, Ken, saying a prayer for Alli's and my future. Our church family has been so supportive and welcoming of Alli's presence in my life and in the life of the church. It seemed only fitting when he said that he would like to send her off in worship. Much like when our Adults and Youth are sent off on a mission trip through worship. It was quite difficult when he asked me to explain how we find ourselves in this position, and what it means for Alli's future and where I go from here.


As you can see, Alli is very comfortable with Ken. She just played with his Golden Retriever, Augie, a couple of weeks ago. They swam at the pond by the Dog "Paw" Park. Alli swam, ran, rolled(in the sand, yuck!), ran some more, swam and then we left. She will probably get a lot more exercise with Elizabeth and Andy. I make sure she gets enough, but man, she can run. Alli is also sooo comfortable when she's in church. She loves the music of the organ and the choirs and I think she really enjoys the down time as well. It was interesting today, I thought, that for the first time since she's been coming to church she didn't sleep. She usually tends to fall asleep shortly after church begins and even when there's a change in tempo or it's quiet she seems to know exactly when church is over and when it's a "false alarm"! I really think she is sensing that something is changing. Whether she is being bothered by noticing that her vision is changing, or if I'm unknowingly "telegraphing" her upcoming departure, I'm not sure. Alli has also started to drool a bit again. If you remember from my earliest posts, when we first met, she drooled a lot! It even prompted me to carry my red "Alli-Rag" wherever we went. It seemed, though, that once she knew she was "home" she stopped. After that she really only drooled when she knew a meal or snack was coming. I really haven't been aware of any major changes in my behavior that would set her off. We still snuggle nightly, she gets her massage and tummy rub nightly as well, and we really seem to be keeping the status quo. I know that you can't count on your pets not picking up signs in your behavior. I used to tell parents that if anything is going on at home you better believe that your child knows a lot more than you think they do. No matter how quiet you whisper, discussions when you think they're sleeping, or even hand signals, the kids always know what's up. I'm really hoping Alli hasn't sensed that things are as bad as they seem. In fact, things are not so bleak. I truly believe that Alli is going to have the most wonderful life.

Now, while I keep saying that she is going to have a wonderful life, it's most definitely going to be hard as hell to watch Alli walk away from me for the last time. I think it's great that we're parting ways at the "Triumph Over Pain: Run, Walk, or Roll" event. I think it would be so much harder if I had to say good bye from either my house or the NEADS campus. It's always difficult to leave her at the groomer......and she's only gone for 2 1/2 - 3 hours! The groomers are great, they all love Alli, and yet it's like sending your child off to their first day of kindergarten each time. I may be able to get through the separation initially, but it will really hit me by the 3rd hour.......of course I'll probably be sobbing for the first 3 hours anyway! Thank God my friend is going with me so she can drive home......coincidentally a 3 hour drive. She even offered to get a room at a hotel the night before the US Pain Foundation event so we're not having to drive 6 hours in one day on top of the emotional factor. I'm also trying to look ahead to when it's just me. I won't have a reason to get up at 7:00am.......no one will be sneaking up alongside me in bed and tapping my legs with their paws to let me know it's time for breakfast. There won't be a wet nose sitting by the kennel at 2:00pm waiting for her "chew"(rawhide square). When my Mark comes home from work @ 5:00pm, 4 paws won't go racing through the house to the front door and a quick about face to get to the kennel for dinner. Every time I stand during the day there won't be a warm body against mine waiting to help at a seconds' notice. There won't be someone eagerly waiting to go outside to earn treats for a job well done practicing. There won't be a big puppy head, head-butting me when one of my migraines/mild strokes is coming to make sure I take my med......and not letting up until I take my pill w/water. And, there won't be a pair of gorgeous eyes looking up at me when I'm sad, confused, or crying to let me know that everything will be okay, and then licking my face and ears until I say "I'm okay".

There are a lot of things that won't be there any more. But now it's time for me to add new things in their place. Alli will be having new experiences and I, too, need to be able to accept new experiences and, eventually a new dog. I need to begin to allow myself to move on even while still in the grieving process. I've allowed myself to grieve since Alli's first visit to Tufts in May, heck, I think I began a bit sooner than that. I knew something was changing, something wasn't quite right even before May, I just wasn't sure what it could be. I am very good at compartmentalizing anything that can be overtaxing. I think that's how I've been able to stay relatively logical in my views of our situation. Allowing myself all this time to grieve has also allowed me to begin to move through the grief to the "other side". Knowing that this is not a "death sentence" for Alli, but another chapter in her life story, or act in her play, has made the grieving process kinder and gentler for me as I know she will go on being "Alli" for a long time. Now, I need to go on being "Wendy", hopefully for a long time as well. Knowing that she will have pleasant experiences allows me to look to the future in hopes of such experiences for me as well.

I think I've mentioned how Harry Chapin's song "Circle" seems so fitting in our lives right now. The first verse, "It seems like I've been here before........", obviously fits especially for Alli and Elizabeth and Andy. It also seems to fit with where I find myself now as well. The end of the first verse, "there's no straight lines make up my life, And all my roads have bends, There's no clear cut beginning, And so far no big ends", has always seemed to me to be the story of my life. I can't imagine a life/road without bends. I imagine it would seem to be a stagnant one. I much prefer the bends, you never know what's around the next one. It's the adventure that takes you there and the experience one grows through. The second verse, "I've found you a thousand times, I guess you've done the same.......""......as I find you here again a thought runs through my mind, Our love is like a circle, let's go 'round one more time" seems to be speaking directly to Alli's relationship with Elizabeth and Andy. And then, there's the chorus. "All my life's a circle..." It always seems you end up where you started but with a lot more experience to handle the next go-round.

I only hope that I've absorbed the knowledge and experience that was meant for me and that is what will carry me into and through this next chapter........I love a good read!!!!!

Peace,
Wendy & Alli

Friends, Old and New and Support.......

Today was a wonderful day. I hadn't expected it to be, but yet, there it was. It was so easy being among others with a love for dogs and all they can do to help their human partners. I knew that this would be one of the last events that Alli and I would attend together and expected it to be difficult seeing all the "teams". It was, however, just the opposite! I felt so much support for both Alli and myself that I think "Indian Ranch" is just where we were meant to be today. I don't believe everyone from NEADS who was there today knows what Alli is going through and I did not speak about it except with those who are aware. Today, we were just a team there to help represent NEADS the best we could. And, what a dynamite team we are! Alli of course is Alli to a fault....she does so well, and just when you think she's going to be calm, she has to give a little jump and "kiss" whoever is petting or talking to her. Most of the time the people love it, most give a little chuckle, and Alli looks at me out of the corner of her eye as if to say...."okay, I sneaked that one in"! She does know, when to toe the line. As we walked around, we were stopped often and asked what type of service dog she is, what special skills she has, asked many questions about NEADS in general, etc. And, of course, she had her picture taken so many times. Everyone falls in love with her at first sight......and they love her little "prance" walk. So, today we were just a normal team, and if felt good. It felt good to be at an event where we could just set aside our problems for a few hours and be there for others. This is how Alli was meant to spend the first part of her career. She thrives on it and puts a smile on everyone's face. No one can help but reach out to pet her. At one point, while we were sitting on the wall listening to the Charlie Daniels Band, and older woman reached out and pet Alli as she sat against me. Shortly afterward, I noticed that her hand was down just petting behind Alli's ear and the woman had such a look of contentment on her face. I'm not sure she realized at that point that she was even petting Alli. That's what Alli is all about. Letting you know she is there for you in whatever capacity you may need her. Even if you're not sure what you need, Alli seems to.

Those that do know about Alli's vision problem are so supportive. They wish us well, tell us to keep each other safe, and even share moments we've had which bring a tear to their eye. Messages from friends, thank you Alexis, Bee, Ellen, Karin, John......etc.......help to keep me focused. It's kind of like when a family member or close friend loses someone close to them I often say that I hope that knowing they touched so many lives in such a positive or powerful way brings them a sense of peace. This I'm feeling myself through the words of others. Alli has such a way of making an impression on others.......I think always in a positive(if not comical)way......I already have that sense of peace one looks for. Alli is not being lost. She's actually being found. She is blessed to be able to be found for another purpose. Whether that purpose is just to add some enjoyment and enlightenment to the lives of Elizabeth and Andy, or if through this experience she is just meant to "chill", one can't say but I'm certain she will make the most out of it. She will also continue to make others smile, laugh, even the occasional "guffaw" just by being Alli.

While NEADS calls their "non-graduates", "fabulous flunkies", Alli is not a "flunkie" by any means. So I like to think of her as what a trainer from FIDELCO told me they call their "non-graduates"......."change of career dogs"......so, Alli is merely changing her career........

Peace,
Wendy & Alli

There Never Seems to Be Enough Time............

As the 24th of September approaches, I find myself having to make an effort to prepare both Alli and myself for our impending separation. Elizabeth has asked me if I would put together a routine/schedule for Alli to help make the transition a little less stressful for Alli. I'm finding that it will probably help to ease my stress as well as it gives me something to focus on. She mentioned that she imagines that Alli is relatively easy going, and she is.....except where meals are concerned! Not only does she love to eat, but she really needs to have her breakfast as close to 7:00am as possible. If not, the excess of stomach acid in her stomach tends to make her vomit. Of course, once she's fed her stomach is just fine!! And, if that's not enough, she needs to have an overturned bowl w/in her food bowl to help slow her down. It almost seems like I'm leaving a note for a sitter for the children......"this happens at this time, that happens at that time", etc. But, for the most part Alli just goes with the flow....... I have also begun to make a list of what needs to go with her. When I found out that I was getting a female black lab named "Alli", I picked up a canvas bag at the Christmas Tree Shop with an "A" monogrammed on it. I have always called it the "Alli" bag. I keep it in the car just in case we end up away from home at meal times or when we go away to stay for a few days. I guess I could call it her "Ready Bag" like they have on Criminal Minds when they have to be ready to travel at a moments' notice. In it, I keep her blanket, at least one mat, a zip bag with a puppy face on it with her treats, toothbrush and toothpaste and rawhide squares. I also keep her "bow wow bag" in it with at least 4 meals portioned out to cover us if we get caught away from home. I'm definitely sending the Alli bag with the blankets, but I'm not sure I'm sending the other bags as I don't know that they're necessary now that she won't be a working service dog after the 24th. Also, they are the perfect bags so I'm sure I'll use them again with my next partner......GOD, that seems so weird to say. I can't decide if it feels wrong to say it......which my brain tells me it shouldn't......or if it's just another way for me to ease into the idea that while Alli will no longer be my service dog, I do still need the assistance and a dog will be found for me at some point. I am also making sure that all of the toys that she regularly uses will go with her in their basket. I do make her pick up her toys when she's done playing by telling her , "time to pick up toys", and having her bring them over to the toy basket where I tell her to "drop-it". Hopefully, when I say it her mouth is over the basket, but sometimes she looks at me just before she drops it and then misses the basket all together. I usually "give her credit" for at least getting close, but she looks at me as if to say, "Is this close enough?" Alli also has 2 seat belts, a pillow for the car.....okay, so she's a bit spoiled..... doesn't she deserve it? I will also be sending her favorite beach and water toys, and certain toys which she likes to play "get-it" with, and still others which she uses for practicing "fetch". I plan on having a small collection of her favorite treats, especially the "Buddy Biscuits" that I use regularly when practicing Alli's recall. I also use them when she's outside either going to the bathroom or just hanging on the grass for a while. She tends to come on the first command with these and her recall has improved at least 1000%!!!!

It seems that Alli's vision may be progressing a bit quicker than anticipated. She really seems to be a bit more reactive during the daylight hours. She barks even when I'm not sure that there's anything to be barking at. I realize that dogs hear sounds which we cannot, however, after she barks she usually comes running over to stand by me. She also tends to growl a bit more. It's a totally harmless growl, I can usually tell her to "go check it out", and when she does, she seems more calm. This doesn't always work, and it really is very difficult to watch my "pushy broad" act more like a femme fa-tale. For this reason alone, I realize that getting her to her new "forever home" as soon as possible is the prudent thing to do. When you add the need for her to become comfortable in her new surroundings, become used to listening and following commands from someone new(kind of), and begin to adjust to her waning vision, I don't think we could even consider a later date, and am sooooo glad we didn't.

This Thursday, September 8th, I am one of the scheduled speakers at the RI Pain Awareness Day.......a brief word or two....and I am thankful that Alli will be by my side. While I know we will part in just a few short weeks, we need to keep up with our scheduled events. I think that's one of the things I''m going to struggle with once Alli has left. Over the years, I really have not had the self-confidence or, probably not even the self-esteem to speak in front of a group. I've always felt that what I have to say is important.....at least to me.....but not such that it would be important to others. Having received Alli, meeting my wonderful friends from NEADS as well as the awesome threesome from my class at NEADS, getting involved with the INvisible Project and through that, the US Pain Foundation and Paul Gileno and Nicole Hemmenway, has given me the courage to speak up and out. I even helped to pass HB 1083 in Connecticut by speaking with Senators and Representatives that expressed an interest. The law, the first of it's kind in the country bans insurance companies from practicing "Step Therapy" (aka "Fail First). Step Therapy is the practice by insurance companies of requiring a patient to "fail first" on one or more sometimes less effective pain medication before approving/filling the prescription which the patients' own doctor initially wrote for. I am quite certain that had it not been for Alli by my side I never could, nor would have ventured into that realm. I am concerned that when Alli is gone I won't be able to find my voice. I know I'll still have the same opinions, the same desire to make a difference, even the same idea of what is right and appropriate yet I'm not sure that my heart will give me the nudge I'll need. It's always easy to work it out in your head and list the reasons why you should go forward. However, I really hope that I'll have the heart to "do the right thing". While my health continues to decline, my pain level increases and I"" had yet another "stint" in the ICU over the course of Irene, I have to admit that my life has been pretty amazing since receiving the gift of Alli. One can choose to sit and whine and complain and play the "why me?" game.....or.....you can put a smile on your face say "it is what it is" and forge ahead. Yup, my head can reason anything.....let's put a "giddy-up" on my heart and hang in there. I really enjoy going to fund-raisers, speaking engagements, and visiting children in schools and the occasional library. Alli thrives on all of that and sooo much more. I think to tie this all in with what I'll speak about on Thursday....it's all about support. Both literally, figuratively and perceived. When you feel the support around you, most things seem bearable, even making the seemingly impossible not only possible but attainable.

Well I've tried to "upload" a couple different videos.....one of Alli in the water on Prudence Islalnd, and the other of her having fun going through some agility equipment at our dog park. Unfortunately, for some reason neither is making the grade....... I started this yesterday and just need to post it without the vids.

We've got just 18 days before the big move for Alli. Trying to make the most of every day and letting her know how much I love her and how special she is...........love, love, love, love.......her

"Til next time.......
Wendy and "Alli-Girl"

Alli and I Face the Future and Emotions

So, Alli and I got out to our house on Prudence Island last Wednesday, the 17th. My good friend Cindy came with us for a MUCH needed reprieve from our day to day lives. We had just settled in for a long winter's nap.....oops, wrong story..... we had just settled ourselves out on the porch when I received a call from Erin. Erin Wylie is the wonderful trainer who matched Alli with me. It's incredible how they are able to match personalities. Granted, they know the dogs really well from the prison programs, but all the trainers know about clients is the information Kathy Foreman collects during the interview. Erin was calling to speak with me about the time frame for Alli going to her new "forever home". I had tentatively aimed for sometime in November as the target date to give Alli her new life. Erin feels that late September or early October would be a more prudent time. Her concerns are that if Alli's vision is already compromised, virtually blind at night, we may not be able to stay "safe". At the moment she's doing fine when she's working. It may be that she's on the lead, and knows that I'm on the other end. When she's "off duty, however, Alli has problems at night when she hears sounds and can't see where they're coming from. At times, she seems not to notice a hand coming "in" to pet her, occasionally even in the daylight. Also, it was very hard to see Alli stumble 2 or 3 times on the beach when there were larger rocks....right in front of her. I have to agree with Erin's projected time frame as Alli also stumbled going up the steps to the porch on the island. While verbally I'm able to "talk a good game", but coming to grips with the idea of Alli leaving me is another story. So far, I am handling it pretty well as long as I remember that this is what's best for Alli. I can't be selfish. If ever there was a time to want the best for "someone" it's now when that someone has given so much of themselves for me.

I've said several times in past posts that Alli is the gift that keeps on giving. Here she is having trouble seeing, starting to become fearful, and she's still alerting me to my migraines, helping me up from falls, being my shoulder to cry on and always being in the "now" for me. And today, not only am I having a tough summer due to the humidity but a couple of days ago my asthma stirred up and last night it became nearly unmanageable. So, I'm dealing with both my restrictive lung disease(my muscles are not strong enough for me to take an adequate breath)as well as the asthma. As always, Alli is right there. Nearly every minute of last night. I was awake all night coughing, and again today she was there by my side. When I got overwhelmed not being able to breathe she sensed this and moved closer. The last ferry left at 6 pm last night so we snuggled right through 'til morning. There are no stores(or restaurants for that matter) so even if I had gotten a returned call from Yale I'm not sure what I would have done. I think Alli knew that and didn't leave my side. **There's also likely to be a "stress" component in this current asthma episode. I've got so much on my mind, that I'm constantly feeling overwhelmed and working really hard to process it and hopefully not let Alli deal with more than she needs to. I think it must be so difficult for Alli, and service dogs in general, being able to sense so much that I wonder exactly what is going on in her head.

Some people don't understand the issue of Alli leaving sooner, or for that matter, how I am able to deal with it as well as I have up to this point. Once again, I have to think of it as a gift. But this time it's the gift I can give to Alli. Allowing Alli to get to know Elizabeth and Andy again, and gain confidence in her new home and surroundings all while she still sees relatively well to me is the priority here. Not to sound crass, but I will go on much like I have in the past. I know that my muscles will continue to weaken but as always I'll get through it. I've learned that things are only as bad as you give them power to be. Alli is the only one here who literally has something to lose. Affording her every opportunity to meet her future with success should be #1. Alli losing her vision is certain. Not being able to work....also a certainty. If those are definite, why not give her a definite positive outcome? As Kathy said about Alli going to Elizabeth, "it's the best possible outcome for a devastating diagnosis". I honestly feel very content and at peace about the decision. And, by Alli leaving sooner, I won't witness her difficulty as her vision fails. It also takes the decision out of my hands, negating the possibility of "hanging on" too long. I have seen too many people watch their pets health decline only because they can't bear to let them go.

Isn't it a greater sense of selflessness to give your pet the gift of love.......

"If you love something, let it go........."

Peace,
Wendy & Alli

Miracles and Memories

Well, my last post explained the situation in which Alli and I now find ourselves. She will go blind due to a genetic disorder sometime in the next 1-2 years. The kindest thing I can now do for her is probably the hardest decision I've ever had to make. Alli will be leaving me and going to a new home where she can enjoy her life without sight. After meeting with staff at NEADS on August 1st, following the decisive appointment at Tufts with the veterinary ophthalmologist, it was decided that NEADS would begin looking for a home for Alli. One of the ways I'm getting through this is by calling it her new "forever home". That way I can always remember that Alli and I had a wonderful home together and now we're moving onto the next "chapter" in our lives. I think that first week in August will go down as the single most painful time of my life.....and that's saying quite a bit! I was filled with much ambivalence as to how to approach this place in time, or even if I could.

I had posted a "Thank You" on Facebook for the prayers Alli and I received as we neared our August 1st appointment. I mentioned that unfortunately the news was not good but that the prayers we had received would get us through this next period of time when decisions about our future(s) would have to be made. I stated that if one read my blog this would all be explained and then went ahead and posted the details on my blog. In the meantime, my brother had called and during our conversation he asked several questions as to what it would entail to care for a blind dog. I had asked him if he was interested in adopting Alli and he told me at this point he was just inquiring. That evening, I sent off and e-mail to Kathy at NEADS with this information along with a brief intro to my brother and his family. The next day was spent with me going back and forth on the pros and cons of Alli going to my brother and his family. My biggest hurdle was knowing how hard it would be seeing Alli as she progressed to complete blindness. I think I would have driven myself crazy weighing this option, knowing it would be wonderful for Alli, and was I being selfish if I denied her that happiness just to spare myself the heartache. I was wondering if I could help wit this decision, when......it happened.....

YES, THERE ARE MIRACLES!

Kathy was just sitting down to answer my e-mail about my brother when the front desk "buzzed" her to let her know that Elizabeth, Alli's "Weekend Puppy Raiser", was on the phone. While she doesn't often go on Facebook, Elizabeth had read my posting and had gone to my blog only to find out the devastating news. She had immediately picked up the phone to call Kathy to let her know that if Alli needed a new home, she and her husband would feel "privileged" to offer her one. I know in the early days of my blog, I mentioned how much Alli loved Elizabeth, and vise versa. When I met Elizabeth at the "Meet and Greet"(held the Saturday of the weekend between the 2 weeks of training at NEADS) she had cried so hard when she saw Alli. Alli was so happy to see Elizabeth that it was really hard to keep her relatively(remember this is Alli that I'm speaking of.....!) calm during the visit. When Elizabeth left she was once again sobbing, you could see the love in her eyes, and Alli actually whined a bit and pulled on her leash to follow. If ever there was such a thing as fate, this has got to be a prime example...... It almost sounds trite when one says that "God has something else planned for them", but I think this may be the case. Another "silly" thing is that every morning after I feed Alli I go right into the shower. Almost w/out exception I sing 3 songs/hymns while in the shower. I start with "Amazing Grace", go into Harry Chapin's "Circle" and recently added the camp song "Alleluia" before finishing with another round of "Amazing Grace". I realized this morning, that Alli has provided me with very "amazing grace", her life seems to be coming full "circle", and I thank God every day "alleluia" for that grace! Particularly, in "Circle", the lines "It seems like I've been here before", and "I've found you a thousand times" and again with "As I find you here again, a thought runs through my mind, our love is like a circle, let's go round one more time" are the poignant lines. While Alli is an amazing service dog, I liken her to a wild pony.....I've always thought that she'd love to "run like the wind". She will, I imagine, be able to do something along those lines when she starts the next phase of her life.....with Elizabeth and Andy.

After learning of Elizabeth's offer, I was finally able to have the "good" cry I've been needing, and found that I had such a sense of "calm" afterward. I used to tell my children that if they need to make a difficult decision, and once made they felt that calm, that it was probably the right one. I know that when the time comes it will be more than difficult but knowing that Alli will have the quality of life that she deserves with wonderful loving owners will allow me to know that it's "the best possible outcome for the worst possible news". Surprisingly, another thing that's helping me to accept the inevitable is looking at the "11am Cute Puppy" pictures and captions on the NEADS blog. http://assistancedogs.wordpress.com
I had already followed the blog and adored the pics, but knowing that maybe one could be my new partner, Alli and I look at them together daily, allows me to begin to look forward again and not be caught up in what cannot be. I spoke with Elizabeth on the phone yesterday for quite a while, and when I got off the phone, I was surprised to hear myself say to my husband, "I feel pretty good right now"! We spoke of things she remembered from her days with Alli, some of Alli's behaviors(both good and some challenging!), commands, a possible time frame for the "move", things that have helped with her fears in the dark at this point, etc. I had such a good sense of how Elizabeth was looking forward to this and preparing. It almost seems like a type of "open adoption" of sorts. I will be able to see pics of Al, stay in touch via cell, e-mail, Facebook and honestly have no reservations regarding Alli's adoption by them. Elizabeth has had experience with disabled animals from horses to rabbits, as well as some time spent with autistic children. I don't believe there could be any better placement than this.

I hope that as the next few weeks to a few months play out I will have more regular postings as this process is important for many on many different levels. My one hope is that I can stay as focused and as positive as I am now without leaning on the selfish side. While receiving Alli was about me and regaining some lost independence, right now it HAS TO BE ABOUT ALLI. I will be able to move forward...one way or the other. Alli's greatest gift to me has been the knowledge that "come hell or high water" I will survive and get through this and there is more help out there for me in the form of another service dog. It may be a long wait, or a short one, but there will be another dog for me. I trust NEADS implicitly....I have to have faith....after all, look at the match they made when they put Alli and I together. So, now it's Alli's turn to be "served". Her best interests for the future must be at the forefront. And, I firmly believe that her future lies with Elizabeth and Andy...........

Hoping that everyone is able to find the PEACE in their lives,
Wendy and Alli

The Results Are In

Well, I've been putting this off since Monday, the 1st. In my last post I mentioned that Alli(pictured above w/ my good friend Bob Marshall doing what she loves!) had seen an ophthalmologist at Tufts for her annual "free" service dog eye exam. I selected Tufts because her "droopy" eyes have always run. I expected to be told that I needed to use drops or a cream to help. They have never seemed to bother her, I just thought it was worth finding out. In any case, instead I was told that the doc suspected PRA(progressive retinal atrophy), a genetic disorder that causes blindness in dogs within 2 1/2 - 3 years of diagnosis. We sent a blood sample to Opti-Gen., the testing facility and had a short lived sigh of relief when the result was negative. There is no "gray area", she didn't/doesn't have PRA. However, when checking with the lab, the specialist was told that a very small percentage of dogs who test negative for PRA have a similar disorder which mimics the symptoms as well as ending in blindness. The first symptom is night blindness, and gradually over time all vision is lost. There is no specific blood test or name for this other disorder as the gene has yet to be isolated and so can't be tested. After learning of this the ophthalmologist had us make an appointment to have an additional test done.

On Monday, August 1st, Alli had an "electroretinogram". In this test, contact like electrodes are placed on the eye itself. First measurements are taken in normal lighting. Then, the pupils are dilated and checked in a dark room. In the darkness, a series of light "flashes" are held in front of the eyes(kind of like strobes) and measurements are taken to see how the retina reacts to the flash. Following this initial darkroom test, there is a 5 minute interval before retesting in the same darkened conditions w/out the lights being turned on in between. If you think about it, when you are initially in a dark room, after a few minutes your eyes begin to become accustomed to the darkness and you start to be able to see shapes, and eventually make out objects in the room. That is the purpose of the 2nd and sometimes 3rd set of darkroom tests. The measurements should show an improvement after 5, then 10(if necessary)minutes. Alli had no change in her "waves" and measured little to no change in her reaction. This showed that she in unable to see in the dark, night blindness, at this point. Her "waves" in the lit room show a marked decrease in reaction and dilation showing that she is in the process of losing her vision completely. The doctor said that she would be completely blind in 1 1/2 - 2 yrs, but due to the current results it could be less than 1 year.

As I said earlier, I have been grieving since May 11th when I got the initial possible diagnosis. I have had lots of time to weigh the options before us. My very first gut reaction was that Alli should be allowed to "live out her days" with a family with plenty of land, experience caring for handicapped animals, and a lot of love to give my best friend. Then, after listening to others say that since Alli is such a great service dog and LOVES working, I selfishly thought that maybe with some work Alli would be able to continue doing what she enjoys doing. Ultimately, I realized that what is important is that Alli is placed with a family as mentioned above while she is still able to see, become accustomed to the "lay-of-the-land" and see and know who is loving her in her new "forever home".

Following our appointment at Tufts on Monday, one of my classmates from NEADS drove me the hour to Princeton to meet with staff there. As I have said before, the NEADS family is so very important once you are entrusted with your new partner. They take you in as a member of their family from the moment you're accepted to receive a dog. From that point on they are always available, whether by phone, e-mail or in person, to answer questions, help with new behaviors, help you keep your dog in check(.....not often necessary......unless you have a character like Alli!!!!!) or just to welcome you when you touch base. We discussed Alli's future, and it was decided that they would begin the process of finding a new home for her. In the meantime I will go back on the "list" for a new dog. Kathy, from NEADS, asked if a home was found for Alli sooner rather than later would I be able to let her go. I explained that I would almost rather that were the case since that would take the decision out of my hands and I wouldn't risk trying to hang on to her too long. She also asked if when another dog was found would I be ready to accept it. This, too, would be okay since I've been preparing myself since May for the inevitable separation from Alli. Knowing that the blindness is in terms of "when", and not "if" allows me to move on as I know that Alli will be placed with someone who can care for her better than I will be able to once she is blind.

Is this going to be easy? NO WAY!!!!!! But I know in the end it will all work out for the best, and that I will get through this as will Alli. Somehow the adage "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger" seems appropriate at this point. For surely, both Alli and I will need all our strength and then some to see through to the other side. Will the next dog be like Alli? I sure hope not! Obviously, I'm sure the dog will be an amazing service dog as all NEADS dogs are, but I honestly can't believe there's another dog w/ Alli's personality.......nor do I think there should be. Being aware that Alli was a "one-of-a-kind" is what will allow me to accept a new partner. Because, we will be partners. Just like Alli and I were. And, I'm sure that this next dog will be like the next chapter in my life, or actually a major part of the next chapter. At the risk of sounding corny, I hope my life story has many chapters, and if I look at it that way, I can look forward to what's to be written on the next page rather than try to write the past over and over. Alli, too, is merely turning the page to the next chapter. And, if I'm not mistaken, if hers was a "picture book" the pages would be filled with bright colors, warm smiles, and confetti everywhere. At least that's what my mind sees when I think of her.

A little crazy, I know, but it's my kind of crazy!

I will continue to post as our adventure unfolds.......

Thanks for your continued support.......